Saying No & Giving Grace

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Why hello old friend, I’ve missed you. No. Really. I’ve missed this blog and clicking away on my keyboard to overshare my life with y’all. This past month has been insane. September of Senior year is no joke, to the point that my planner had absolutely no white space and I was additionally writing on sticky notes.

If you know me, I hate the word “No” I’m more of a YES!!!! kind of girl who wants to help and be involved in absolutely everything. I love being busy, I love feeling needed and wanted and I love the sense of purpose that comes from “going” non-stop.

Plot twist: that doesn’t work when you’re a Senior in high school. I started the school year committed to this blog, head of my school’s homecoming (2nd year in a row!), a lead volunteer position, mentoring, teaching cotillion, taking 3 (technically 4) AP classes, applying to 8+ colleges and keeping my grades up….. all while having this little (sarcasm) thing called PCOS which means health is: working out almost daily, meal prepping, getting full nights of sleep and keeping low stress. Oh and maybe a social life thrown in.

Only three weeks into school I had to make the decision to cut back. At this point we were a month away from homecoming with so much to do, I was on my 7th draft of my common app essay and in August I had not spent a single weekend at home. My health made me feel weak and I was irritable with absolutely everyone.

So, I had to say no. I sorted out my priorities, dropped out of an AP class with a teacher I love but had too much stress, dropped my volunteer position and decided to take some time off from my blog I said yes to working out as much as I could (CycleBar – I love you!!) and learned what it means to give yourself grace. I forced myself to stop using the words “stressed” and “overwhelmed” – which still slipped out every once in awhile but it helped me to become more aware. I deleted Facebook and YouTube off of my phone, discovering more free time. I prioritized a family vacation over homecoming planning, walking along the beach for 4 miles without any technology. Was everything perfect all of the time? Nope. But, I was able to plan the most attended dance at my school ever (breaking my own record,) actually ate lunch with my best friends and prioritize what truly matters.

Now comes October: the month of finishing college applications and really focusing on this blog. (Let me know if there is any content y’all would like to see!!) October is synonymous with fall, which means new seasons and new changes. While this month may be less hectic it is still surely busy and I’m looking forward to a different change of pace. I’m sad to see homecoming go, seriously that event is my life, I’m excited for all of the fun ahead.




Senior Year Bucket List

 I wrote this post back this summer and thought I published it, but apparently not. Even though senior year has already started, this still applies so really it doesn’t matter.

Last school year I didn’t prioritize being social at all and really struggled to find balance, so this year I made it my goal to accomplish all of the things I’d “say I’d do” by the end of highschool! I am a huge goal setter but I never really make a lot of “fun” goals, but since I’m currently working on establishing balance in my life (after last year’s burn out) there are a few things I need to prioritize.

  • Applying to college is obviously a big one, that I have no choice in the matter and has already become an overwhelming force in my life. I’ll explain in a later post but the college application process has been a rollercoaster of emotions and I am for sure holding tight.
  • Away football games were easily one of my favorite parts of Junior year. They’re filled with late night drives to some random small North Carolina town, dinners with the team and there is always some funny joke that comes out of each adventure. Unfortunately most of the away games this year have been canceled but I am looking forward to the few we will have.
  • Senior Capstone is a new project I’m developing this year that’s brand new to my school. I had heard the idea from a bunch of other girls at different highschool who all found a designated time and project to grow their blogs. So after a 20 page pitch my plan is approved and I’m taking my blog as a class! Hopefully it will help me to really focus and to also fall back in love with this platform I hold dear.
  • In addition to my highschool’s class I am a part of the 2018 Debutante class! My town has an organization that recognizes young women in our area that have made contributions to our community and I am honored to be a part of it. It’s given me opportunities to meet so many different friends from other schools and we have so many things going on.
  • Confession: I’ve never been to the North Carolina State Fair. Shocking and unheard of if you live in Raleigh. In my defense, I can’t eat any of the fried food (or any of the food) and have no desire to go on the rides. However it’s a North Carolina tradition and it’d be wrong to never go especially as I could be going out of state for college!
  • I’m a huge nerdy craft girl, no suprise and if you can’t tell from this blog: I love photography. A huge goal I have is to print out my pictures from this year & document them in a scrapbook. I’ve seen seniors at my school in the past do this and love how it turns out!
  • My best friend Kelsey is also a senior but in college! Even though she is only a few towns over in Chapel Hill, I’ve only visited her a handful of times. Before we both go on new adventures next year and live even farther away, I really want to spend the night at UNC to see her! It’s something we have talked about for ages but never actually made happen & this year it is necessary!

Obviously there are a few more things I really want to do: become more involved at my church, cross off every coffee shop on my coffee shop bucket list and journal more consistently! I’m curious: what are your current “fun” goals?



Little Black Dress

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Black Dress // Heels – Similar // Earrings – Similar

“You can always keep it simple with a little black dress.” – My AP English Teacher

If you know me, you’ll know I am not a fan of black. I’m more of a “little navy dress” kind of girl. But after a series of events on back to back weekends I found this super slimming black dress with scallop trim. Suprisingly I picked it up, on major sale at White House Black Market which I always thought was an “old lady store.” Because black isn’t a “normal” color in my wardrobe I was challenged with finding an accent color. Black & pink just looks less elegant but after a few days of searching found these awesome blue drop earrings. My clutch was a random cosmetic bag I found for $5 a few years back, and provided the statement pop this outfit needed. Because of the bright pops, I didn’t feel “emo” like I thought I would in a black dress, I’m not sure my full reasoning why I thought I would, but I did. As always, I wore my gold block heels, which are inevitably dying, but I danced all night without taking them off.



Photography: W.Goodwin